Summer Camp and a Complicated Birthday Celebration

Last month, I traveled with both my kids to Puerto Rico. One of the reasons for our trip was for the kids to be able to go to an awesome summer camp. For Paulo, it meant an all day experience, whereas for Penny it was half day. I’m not going to lie, leaving my food allergic kiddos in school/summer camp is a bit nerve-wracking, especially since Paulo is newly diagnosed and Penny is still learning to identify which food products contain her allergens.

To my surprise, Paulo was really good at identifying what he could or couldn’t eat and understood that he was not able to share snacks or lunch with anybody else. Penny was a different story. In her case, teachers had to be vigilant and extremely careful at snack time. However, they were really good at keeping Penny safe. They told me that it was a learning experience for them. They found it easy to avoid and keep Penny away from peanuts and tree nuts but were surprised with all the food products that contain dairy. They made sure that everybody washed their hands before and after snack and would carefully clean the tables, chairs and materials to avoid an allergic reaction. Overall, both kids had an amazing time and I am happy to say that both children had an allergy-free summer camp experience.

However, like everything in life, nothing is perfect. On the last day of summer camp, we celebrated Paulo, Penny and another child’s birthday. At first, when the director told me about the celebration, I was hesitant for it involved food and as a food allergy mom, that makes me a bit anxious. But at the end, I accepted because the director assured me that she would talk to the mom of the other child celebrating the birthday and would make sure that the celebration would be allergy-friendly. It was my responsibility to bake allergy friendly cupcakes and the other mom would only bring fruits and veggies.

Last day of camp came and everything was looking great. Until, all of a sudden, the other mom comes with a cake on her hands. My heart started pounding with fear and disappointment, and I’m guessing that I did not control my emotions well because as soon as she looked at me, she assured me that the cake was brought only so she could take a picture. I was confused. The only reason I had accepted to have the birthday celebration was because it was going to be an allergy-free gathering and now, this mom knowingly brought an allergen-full cake… Anyway, I trusted that she was going to keep her word and continued with our day. The party was awesome: kids were enjoying the bouncy house, the water slides, and the allergy-friendly snacks.

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It was time to sing Happy Birthday, so we all gathered around the table where I had beautifully placed the 70 homemade allergy-friendly mini-cupcakes and we all sang the birthday song. We shared the cupcakes with everyone and were having an awesome time when all of a sudden the “picture cake” was out. They took the pictures, I looked away, and when I looked back there was a mess made out of the cake’s frosting. I started getting anxious, trying to keep Penelope away from the cake area when I noticed that the mom was cutting the cake and giving away some pieces to some children. This is when I went from anxious to upset. I couldn’t believe my eyes. This mom, who had been told about both my children’s allergies and their severity, and who had agreed on not bringing any allergens, not only brought them, but knowingly was also putting my child’s health and life at risk. I was too upset to talk to her without making a scene, so instead I took our stuff and my severe allergic child and left.

I know and understand that the world is not allergy-free and that not everybody understands the consequences that a little bit of an allergen can cause (in our case, anaphylaxis). In this case, what disappointed me was that this other mom knew beforehand about the allergies and still went on and brought allergens. It saddens me that people can’t see that where their child’s inconvenience starts is exactly where my children’s life is put at risk.

Both my children had an amazing summer; it was their mom who got scared and angry at other people’s lack of understanding. Help me out to spread awareness, so empathy can be achieved.

For more information about food allergies, visit:

Food Allergy Research & Education

Food Allergy & Anaphylaxis Connection Team

Kids with Food Allergies

American College of Allergy, Asthma & Immunology

American Academy of Allergy, Asthma & Immunology

Chocolate Mini-Cupcakes


                    Makes 48 Mini-Cupcakes

Ingredients:

  • 1/3 cup olive oil
  • 1 tsp. vanilla extract
  • 1 tsp. distilled white vinegar
  • 1 cup coconut milk
  • 1 cup sugar
  • ½ tsp salt
  • 1 tsp baking soda
  • ¼ cup cocoa powder
  • 1 ½ cup all-purpose flour

Directions:

  • Preheat oven to 350°F.
  • Grease mini-cupcake pan.
  • In a bowl, mix together the oil, vanilla extract, vinegar and coconut milk. Add the sugar, salt, baking soda, baking powder and flour to the liquid mix. Mix until well blended.
  • Pour the cupcake mix in the pan and place the pan on the oven.
  • Bake for 6 mins.
  • Let it cool for about an hour.
  • Enjoy! 

If you want to make Chocolate Frosting, follow the directions on this recipe.

    Traveling with Food Allergies

    Last month, I planned a trip back home for the summer. This trip translates to 9 hours of flying with 1 stop and a 3 hour layover in between. I know: Exhausting!

    A week before the trip, I started feeling extremely anxious about flying because my children have food allergies. I have traveled with my kids before, but this time it was different. Since last time, Paulo has developed a dairy allergy and Penny’s allergies have become more severe. At this point, I know exactly what I have to do before flying in order to prevent an allergic reaction: check airline allergy policies, call the airline, bring extra medication and epinephrine auto-injectors, pack allergy-friendly snacks, pack wipes and bring allergy allert wristbands. We have traveled with Delta before and they have been very accomodating with food allergies, so I decided to book our flight with them. To see their peanut allergy policy click here.

    Once at the gate, I informed the airline staff  about Penny’s peanut allergy. To my surprise, they had it on the passenger’s list and had already informed the flight crew. We were able to pre-board and wipe down our seats, eating tray tables and window. When it was time for the crew to serve snacks, an announcement was made- they said that they were not going to serve any peanut products due to a passenger’s peanut allergy. However, they didn’t ask other passengers to refrain from eating peanuts. According to a flight attendant it was because they ” couldn’t stop anyone from eating any peanut products on-board”. Luckily, our first flight was smooth: no allergic reactions! 🙂

    We got to our first destination and layover: N.Y. At the airport, Penny started coughing and sneezing. Later on, her eyes turned red and became very itchy. I was 100% sure that she hadn’t ingested any allergens, so I proceeded to give her benadryl. About an hour later she looked like she was feeling better: coughing had subsided and she was barely scratching her eyes.

    When the layover was almost over and it was time to board the plane, I proceeded to tell the airline staff about the allergy and went on to pre-board and wipe down our area. Again, the airline refrained from serving any peanut products. However, this time there was no announcement made. Two hours into this flight, Penny’s allergy started to get worse. She had nasal congestion, started sneezing again, her eyes became itchy and started to swell up. To my knowledge, Penny has never experienced an anaphylactic reaction, so everytime she starts showing any sign of an allergic reaction, I get anxious. I kept observing her closely- I had given her benadryl a few hours before and it wasn’t time to giver her a second dose.

    She hadn’t eaten any dairy or peanut products, which lead me to belive that her allergy was, in this case, a cause of “environment pollution”. Meaning that there were enough peanut particles in the air to cause an allergic reation. At one point, one of her eyes was almost swollen shut, so I talked to the flight attendant, explained what was going on and told her that if things didn’t take a turn for the better anytime soon, I was going to use the EpiPen. What worried me the most was not knowing if her breathing was affected. The flight attendant asked for a Doctor on board, there was none. Lucky for us, there was a medical student sitting right in front of us and was able to listen to Penny’s lungs with a stethoscope. She was able to confirm that Penny’s lungs were not wheezing. This helped me calm down a bit.
    We still had about an hour and a half of flight left and we were in the middle of the ocean, which meant that there was no way that the pilot could’ve made an emergency landing if it was necessary. Instead, they contacted a hospital, where a Doctor instructed me to give her a second dose of benadryl. Those were the longest hours that I’ve ever lived. I felt so scared, helpless, lonely and desperate. Thankfully, the airline crew was wonderful: they kept checking on us constantly and offered a great amount of support.

    The second dose of benadryl “hit the spot”. Consequently the swelling started to slowly go down and you could tell that Penny was starting to feel better. As soon as the airplaine landed, I called Penny’s allergist and explained the situation. He told me that since she had not eaten the allergen, I should just keep observing her and if she showed any signs of breathing distress, then I should use the EpiPen and take her to the nearest ER. When we got off the airplane, the airline had arranged for EMTs to check on Penny. Later that day, she was seen by a pediatrician in my hometown who started her on cortizone and by next day you couldn’t see any allergy signs.

    Up to this day, I still ask myself what went wrong. I wonder if there were enough peanut particles in the air from the previous flight or if someone in our flight was eating any peanut products. Did I wipe our seats and table trays correctly? Was this an inevitable incident? These questions and a lot of other ones remain unanswered. However, I have the satisfaction that I did everything that could’ve been done and that at the end Penny was fine.

    On the other hand, I ask myself: What are certain airlines waiting to completely eliminate peanuts on all of their flights? I wonder how important is an “inconvenience” over a persons life. My children don’t have a choice- their lives depend on it. It’s not fair to put someone’s life at risk over a bag of peanuts. Let’s have some empathy and support people with food allergies. Help me create awareness in order to achieve a change. It’s time to make a change and help people stay safe!

    Support is Key

    Two years have gone by since we learned that Penny has life-threatening food allergies. It has been all about learning and although difficult, because we’ve had to change our lifestyle, it has resulted in an enriching experience.

     

    In the beginning, I made sure I had read all the information pamphlets that the allergist had provided. I searched online and visited food allergy online organizations that provide helpful resources and made sure that the people around me understood that Penny couldn’t eat dairy, peanuts or tree nuts.

     

    When Penny had her 1st food allergy blood test, the results were not too high. Interestingly, the result for the dairy allergy was in the “safe zone”, meaning that she could’ve participated in an oral food challenge because it showed that the allergy was not severe. However, she had only experienced allergic reactions to dairy, and they were not pretty. On the other hand, the peanut allergy results indicated that an ingestion of peanut would mean a severe reaction; luckily she had never eaten peanuts.

     

    A few months after Penny’s diagnosis, I decided that I was going back to work. I was blessed with a friend who offered to watch Penny while I worked. My friend, Yeshica, understood the severity of her allergies and was always cautious. I am happy to say that while Penny was in her care she didn’t experience a single reaction. In my opinion, it is people like her that make the world a better place. ☺ I was lucky to have found someone with great empathy and understanding that also gave me great support.

     

    A year went by, it was time for Penny’s yearly check-up with her allergist. The blood work revealed that now both of her allergies were severe. The allergist told me that it was unnecessary to do a skin prick test- the blood work results were so high that it was obvious that the skin test was going to be positive. Also, it could cause her a severe reaction. This made me more anxious. I felt desperate, helpless, lost… At this point, Yeshica was not going to be able to watch Penny anymore while I worked and I looked for daycares with good food allergy policies without success. I wondered if I was being too picky, but I went with what my gut told me. I always put my kids before anything, so I decided to stay home in order to teach Penny what she can and cannot eat.

     

    A couple months after, I had a doctor’s appointment. I enrolled Penny in an hourly care center for a couple hours. The center is a peanut free facility and knows about her allergies. After my appointment, Penny still had one more hour left before I had to pick her up, but I decided to pick her up early. When I got to the daycare center, she was scratching her eyes. I thought she was tired. Then all of a sudden she started sneezing. How strange! By the time we got to the car, she was covered in hives…When we got home, one of her eyes was swollen. I panicked! I thought: “In the daycare center they couldn’t have given her any of her allergens because she has a special diet and she even wears an allergy bracelet.” So, I proceeded to give her Benadryl and called the allergy clinic. Their staff instructed me to take her to the ER. I live literally 5 minutes from the hospital, which seemed like an hour. We got there, and thankfully the antihistamine had done its work. We were kept there for about 4 hours to make sure that no biphasic reaction ocurred and were later sent home. A biphasic anaphylactic reaction is when symptoms recur without the exposure to the allergen. It can happen within 1-72 hours. Thankfully, everything was fine! This experience confirmed that I had taken the right choice by staying home with Penny. Also, now I think back and ask myself if I made the right choice by giving her the antihistamine instead of the epinephrine… If this happens now, I would use the auto-injector- “when in doubt, use the Epi” is my new motto.

     

    After this incident, it has become extremely difficult for me to leave Penny under the care of anybody else. Just the thought of leaving her at a daycare center or with anyone else gives me a lot of anxiety… This is when my husband suggested that I find a local Food Allergy Support Group. I searched everywhere without success. The closest one is, at least, an hour away. So, instead, I started this blog in hopes of creating awareness about food allergies. That same month, after a lot of reading and writing, it occurred to me to start a Support Group. Ahhhh, “necessity is the mother of invention”, isn’t it? So, I started asking organizations, clinics, patient advocacy, and pretty much everybody for help. Everyone seemed so excited about the idea, but nobody seemed to know in which direction to point or guide me. Finally, I thought to myself: “if there’s anyone that might want to help, it has to be someone from the allergy clinic.” I was right! The whole staff was very excited and started moving towards helping me create a support group.

     

    Last week was our first Support Group meeting! An allergist and the head of the allergy clinic guided it. They talked about food allergies in general, explained what anaphylaxis is, what are the symptoms and what to do in case someone experiences anaphylaxis. They taught us how to use the EpiPen and the Auvi-Q auto-injectors, and answered questions. The next meetings are going to be guided by us, the patients, with the support of the allergist and his team. I am so happy to have finally found the right group of people to help us go through this process and to support each other in every step of the way. Like I’ve said before, in my opinion, Support is the Key when it comes to Food Allergies.

    Double Chocolate Cake with Chocolate Frosting

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    Ingredients:

    Cake

    • 1/3 cup olive oil
    • 1 tsp. vanilla extract
    • 1 tsp. distilled white vinegar
    • 1 cup non-dairy milk. I used soy milk.
    • 1 cup sugar
    • ½ tsp salt
    • 1 tsp baking soda
    • ¼ cup cocoa powder
    • 1 ½ cup all-purpose flour
    • 1 cup Enjoy Life Semi-Sweet Chocolate Mini Chips

    Frosting

     

    Directions:

    Cake

    • Preheat oven to 350°F.
    • Grease one 9X5 pan. I like to use Earth Balance Vegan Buttery Sticks to grease the pan.
    • In a bowl, mix together the oil, vanilla extract, vinegar and soy milk. Add the sugar, salt, baking soda, baking powder and flour to the liquid mix. Mix until well blended.
    • Finally add the mini chocolate chips and mix well.
    • Pour the cake batter in the 9X5 pan.
    • Place a baking pan filled with water on the bottom rack of the oven. This will keep the cake moist after baking.
    • Place the pan that has the cake batter right on top of the pan that has water.
    • Bake for 43 mins.
    • Let it cool for about an hour.

    Frosting:

    • In a bowl, mix buttery spread*, cream cheese and vanilla extract. Add the cocoa powder and confectioners’ sugar. Mix on a high speed for about 8-10 mins.
    • Cover and put it in the refrigerator for about an hour.
    • Frost the cake.
    • Keep refrigerated until served.

    Enjoy!

     

     

    Eating Out With Food Allergies

    For some reason that I still don’t understand, most outings or social activities revolve around food. At least, this used to be our case. If there was a birthday, we had to go eat-out. If family members came to visit, we would go to a restaurant. I mean, pretty much anything involved food. I was O.K. with this until my youngest child was diagnosed with Food Allergies; this made things different for us. Now, if we go out of the house, we bring allergy-friendly food with us everywhere. It’s fun, like having a picnic every time. We rarely eat at restaurants, and when we do, the whole experience is accompanied by a safety “ritual”. So, what do we do?

    • We look for an allergy friendly restaurant. Allergy Eats has become our best friend when it comes to finding restaurants that accommodate my kids food allergies.
    • If I’m not sure that the restaurant is accommodating, I just call them. It is surprising how many restaurants are happy to accommodate food allergies.
    • Before leaving the house, I make sure that we have 2 EpiPens and a bottle of Benadryl in our bag. I NEVER leave the house without our epinephrine auto-injectors.
    • Once I arrive at the restaurant, I let the host/hostess know about the food allergies.
    • Once we know in which table we’re sitting, I wipe down the table and seats to make sure there is no allergen residue that can potentially start a reaction.
    • When we are seated, the first thing I do is make sure that the server knows about the food allergies and understands the severity of it. We have a child with life-threatening allergies.
    • If it’s possible, I try talking to the chef/cook. This way I make sure that he/she knows about the food allergies and how important it is for us that there is no cross-contact.
    • We try to order allergy-friendly meals for everybody.
    • When the food arrives, I try to make sure that there is no obvious allergen at sight.
    • I try to remind others and myself to not use their/my utensils on someone else’s food.
    • If everything goes well, which has been our experience, we thank the server and the chef/cook for the meal and for making sure that our children didn’t have an allergic reaction. A nice tip always helps and it shows the staff that we appreciate the extra effort they put in keeping the experience allergy friendly.
    • If the restaurant hasn’t been rated in Allergy Eats, it’s a good idea to rate it. This way, you help other families that are looking for a safe, allergy friendly place to eat.

     

    Now, if we are invited to eat at a friend/family member’s house, things go in a similar way. Here’s what I do:

    • I remind my friend/family member about the allergies.
    • Ask what is going to be served and recommend some allergy friendly substitutes to cook with.
    • Ask to help with the cooking. Or, ask if I can bring some of the food. This way I know what is being cooked and make sure that the ingredients are allergy friendly.
    • If your friend or family member doesn’t want you involved with the cooking, but you still doubt that the food will be allergy friendly, bring the food for the allergic person. Always trust your instincts, I know I do and they’re usually right.
    • I also, wipe down the eating area before seating. I don’t want to risk it. You never know when someone else has eaten an allergen in that area.

     

    There are also other things that I’ve learned from our experiences and that might be helpful in avoiding allergic reactions:

    • Make sure to ALWAYS remind the restaurant staff (host, server, chef) about the food allergies, even if they know you. You never know when they are too busy and/or might forget about the allergy.
    • If someone on the table orders something that’s not allergy friendly, try to have that person seat as far away as possible from the person that has food allergies. Be mindful of avoiding cross-contamination of utensil if sharing food. After that person (with the food that has allergens) is done eating ask him/her, politely, to wash their hands.

    Enjoy your meal. Food Allergies don’t need to be an obstacle with the right precautions.

    Stay Safe!

     

    Another Food Allergy Diagnosis

    When Winter Break was over, we all went back to our routines. Juan got back to work, Paulo to school, Penny & I to our everyday activities. As I’ve said before, we avoid having allergens in our house, which means no dairy and no nuts. So, school was the only place that Paulo was able to have his cup of milk without me worrying about cross-contact and consequently an allergic reaction. However, when Paulo tried having his usual cup of milk at school, he threw up. That day he said he was too full from the lunch he ate and maybe that was why he threw up. Next day, same thing happened. This time, I was sure that it had nothing to do with being too full because it was accompanied by a week of stomach pain, bloating, gas, etc. Maybe it was a virus or maybe he was starting to develop either an allergy to milk or lactose intolerance.

    We decided he was going to avoid milk until we could find out what was going on. He was tolerating cheese, and then one day, after having pizza for lunch, same thing happened. This was the day when he ended up admitted to the hospital (see Hospital Stay). Doctors discharged him with a gastroenteritis diagnosis. I knew something was not right, I felt that it was not gastroenteritis. So, I scheduled a follow up with his pediatrician. After a few visits to different doctors and some tests, it turns out that Paulo has a food allergy: he is allergic to cow’s milk.

    This diagnosis taught me that there are different types of food allergies. There are the IgE-Mediated Food-Related Disorders and the Non-IgE-Mediated Food Allergic Disorders. The initial blood test done measured the presence of IgE antibodies to a specific foods. However, Paulo has one of the Non-IgE-Mediated Food Allergic Disorders, reason why that first test came back negative. If you want to find more about Non-IgE-Mediated Food Allergic Disorders, click here… I guess we do learn something new every day.

    Like I’ve said before, even though Food Allergies are, most of the time, overwhelming, in my case it has had its share of positive outcomes.  At this point, we are aware of what we eat, we eat a healthier diet, we grow our own organic vegetables and fruits and we know how to avoid diary. Also, Paulo’s reactions are not life threatening. Yes, it is an inconvenience if cross-contact occurs and yes, he gets sick, but his life is not at risk when a reaction occurs. Nevertheless, it is still serious.

    We started Food Allergy Awareness Week with another Food Allergy diagnosis in our house. Now I have more than one reason to advocate and raise awareness about food allergies. This week I wear teal for both my kids.

    Small Victories

    You might remember a post I published a couple of months ago called “Walk a Mile in my Shoes”. In it I explained what I go through with Penny (and her food allergies!) when I drop Paulo off at his ballet class. After that “incident” I knew that something had to be done.  That day, I felt allergens were something unavoidable, they were pretty much everywhere. So, next time I went to drop Paulo off at ballet class, I asked to talk to the program manager. She explained that we were in a peanut-free facility and it has a designated eating area. However, I told her that there were no signs anywhere explaining that, so there was no way people knew about it. I told her how I have walked in some days finding myself seating next to someone eating a bag of peanuts and consequently panicking at the thought of Penny experiencing an anaphylactic shock. She completely understood since she also has food allergies. After a long talk, she agreed to put up signs on the walls that specify that people are not allowed to bring peanut/tree nut products in the building.

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    A week after the signs were up on the walls someone took them down… It is still hard for me to understand how refraining from eating peanuts in a limited interval of time can be something so inconvenient. I can’t understand how people believe that they have the right to eat peanuts. Eating peanuts is a choice. My daughter’s allergies aren’t a choice. She can’t decide if she will have an allergic reaction. It just happens… Anyway, I went back to the administration office. Again, the signs were put up on the walls. Up to this day, they’re still there. People don’t always follow the rule of eating in the designated area, but, guess what? I can always remind them. Small victories like this one will help us create awareness.

    I am going to continue advocating for my child’s food allergies, after all, I am protecting her life. If we let others know what we go through, we can, maybe, cultivate some empathy and awareness, one person at a time.

     

    Chocolate Chip Cookies

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    Ingredients:

     

    Directions:

    • Pre-heat oven to 350°F.
    • Grease baking pan.
    • Mix the melted butter and the sugar, until well blended.
    • Beat in the eggs, one at a time.
    • Stir in the vanilla extract.
    • In a small cup, dissolve the baking powder in warm water, then add to the batter.
    • Add salt.
    • Stir in flour and chocolate chips.
    • Scoop out the dough into cookies.
    • Bake for 15 mins.

    Enjoy!

     

    Everything Will be Fine

    For the past few weeks I’ve been “disconnected” from the blog for two reason: 1) my husband’s grandmother came to town to visit and I wanted to spend quality time with the family (no interruptions!), and 2) I had one wisdom tooth extracted and recovery took my energy way. But now I’m back- fully recovered and back to our routine.

    Like I’ve stated before, we avoid having Penny’s allergens at home, but two weeks ago I bought cow’s milk for my hubby’s grandmother (Mamá Maggie, as my kids lovingly call her). Her house is not allergy-friendly, and why should it be? We don’t visit because she lives cross-country and neither she nor anyone around her has food allergies. And even though she is very understanding and careful about Penny’s allergy, I wanted to have something in the house for her morning coffee…Penny will be going to preschool pretty soon and I need to accept the fact that she is not living in an allergy-friendly world. Sure, I make “our world” allergy-friendly and easier, but that’s not the reality once we go out of the house. We did manage to avoid peanuts and tree nuts, and because we were very careful, reactions were avoided as well. Also, Penny understood that she couldn’t touch the cow’s milk and wouldn’t even go near it. This gives me a lot of confidence, for now I know that she is learning what she can and cannot eat.

    Mamá Maggie enjoyed our allergy-friendly homemade baked goods, and she even dared to try Sunbutter and Soy Nut butter. She told me that she enjoyed so much some of our allergy-friendly products, that she will be buying them for herself. Also, she altered some recipes while she was here so they were allergy-friendly and we could all eat the same thing.

    I am eternally grateful for Mamá Maggie’s thoughtfulness about Food Allergies- she even thought about them when we were looking for restaurants. I understand that this is something that might not be easy for someone that hasn’t experienced food allergies closely and that is used to not avoiding any allergens… Again, THANK YOU! Things simple as these make me a happier person.

    I recently read an article in the Food Allergy & Anaphylaxis Connection Team (FAACT) webpage about the “Psychological Impact for Families Living with Food Allergy” and it stated that, “Children with more than two food allergies and their parents report poor quality of life”. This is our case; Penny is allergic to dairy, peanuts and needs to avoid most tree nuts. Honestly, I can say that Food Allergies are overall overwhelming, and create a great deal of anxiety for me. I decided to stay home instead of working because of Food Allergies, and it is almost impossible for me to trust anyone to take care of my “food allergic” daughter. I even get anxious leaving her with her dad (I know!). After two years, I can say that I am slowly learning to take deep breaths and “let go”. So, two weeks ago, when I had a wisdom tooth extraction and had to rest a lot for 2-3 days, I was “forced” to let others watch Penny. In this case, Mamá Maggie and my husband took care of her. Guess what? Penny didn’t have a single reaction and the world didn’t come to an end. I am grateful for this experience, now I know that everything will be fine. For now, baby steps until I get there!

    I still have a lot to learn in this journey, but with understanding, awareness, education and most importantly SUPPORT, we will be fine.